Of course a big bucket of them provide open-ended creativity, but he also likes the "model" type; where there are step by step directions showing him how to create a specific space ship or race car.
When he first started doing the model kits, I was doing 95 percent of the construction. The detailed directions had to be followed by me, and I would let him work on squeezing a few blocks together. Later, he worked on finding the pieces and handing me the ones I called for. This year we had reversed those roles - I worked on supplying him with the pieces he asked for.
Today I saw one of his birthday Lego kits completely constructed. He hadn't asked for my assistance.
"Jake," I said. "When did you put that one together?"
He shrugged, "A few minutes ago."
Not only done by himself... but done quickly.
I had the slightest twinge of sadness that he had done it without me, but I refused to hold that emotion; I let it pass. The job of every good father is to help his son grow in independence. My son needs me a little less than he did a year ago.
Which is exactly as it should be. :)
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When Christopher was 8 or 9 we bought him a new bike. I was ready to help him learn. I grabbed on the back to steady it and told him okay start peddling. Before moving an inch he said, "Dad let go". I told him I was going to help him. He again told me to let go. I did and he took off on his bike without my assistance and rode it like had been on it for years. I asked him where he had learned to bike and he said, "I had a dream that I could."
I experienced the same emotions,
We are proud when they grow and yet its bitter-sweet because I want my baby that NEEDS me :)
Great post!
Legos will give way to dating and driving. Enjoy the "Lego Days." They go fast!
My oldest is 42, my youngest 29...Enjoy them while you can.
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