Saturday, April 08, 2017
Growing up, our community had a lot of thoughts and opinions about the interactions between men and women. Unmarried people were to be guarded and circumspect when it came to time spent with members of the opposite sex. This was talked about and preached about.... a lot. As a young person trying to remain "pure", my goal of following the right path when it came to women bordered on obsessive. An inordinate amount of my thought life was devoted to "not placing anything before my eyes that would cause me to sin before the Lord".
Looking back, I cringe at how damaging this outlook was. It hobbled me relationally. I viewed half the population of our planet as "an occasion to sin". I considered my own biology and sexuality an enemy. There were times when I actually resented women for... existing.
We may, as a Western culture, look down on some Middle Eastern societies that drape their women in varied levels of physical covering- but many religious cultures in America entertain similar notions. The values that led Mike Pence to his conclusions about how to relate to the opposite sex, objectify and relegate women to a lower tier status as surely as any burka.
Posted by Andrew at 8:02 AM
Sunday, February 19, 2017
Then I remembered Google Translate. I pulled out my phone and downloaded the app. I set it to Chinese.
I pressed the button. "Are you sad?" I said.
A moment later it spoke back in Chinese. His eyes widened. I showed him the button to press on my phone. He spoke into it, and a moment later it said "Yes, I am sad."
"Why are you sad?" I asked. My phone translated.
"I lost my gloves during lunch," my phone said aloud after he spoke to it.
I asked what color they were. He pressed the button and spoke.
I announced to the class that we were missing his gloves. My lunch monitor said that after everyone left the table, she saw gloves and put them in our lunch basket. She ran over to it and held up the gloves. My Chinese student lit up and smiled.
For the next 10 minutes, my student and I talked through my phone. We found out each other's favorite colors, how to say good morning, and what our opinions were on snow.
Posted by Andrew at 10:59 AM
Monday, October 24, 2016
Another friend interjected that I was taking that verse out of context (no one ever complains about context when the pleasant stuff is quoted). She provided a link to an article that explained why that verse didn't really say what it seemed to say. I responded:
As I read through that article, it does little to alleviate the severity of that scripture. For me, at the end of the day, there is no context where I am going to watch the stoning of a child and walk away with an explanation that would justify it to me.
I suspect that when a Christian reads a similar scripture in the Koran, an apologetic explanation would carry no further for them either. They would read it and find it horrific, regardless of explanations their Muslim friend might offer them.
I live in the heart of Mormondom. My evangelical friends have dozens of critiques of Mormon scriptures and history – and Mormons have an answer for every one of them (e.g. http://en.fairmormon.org/Joseph_Smith/Polygamy). Do those answers work? For the Mormon, yes… but not for the evangelical.
The function of apologetics is not to change the mind of the unbeliever- it is to quiet the mind of the believer. No matter the religious stripe, a believer will readily accept an explanation that holds zero water for someone outside the faith. Why? Because the believer is already 95% convinced. They just need the assurance that somewhere out there, the question has been asked and answered. With that assurance in mind, they can proceed along the path – calm and content.
It was the same for me back when I was a believer. The shift came when I began to apply the same standards of judgment to my own religion as well as to others. If something was unacceptable for another religion, then it had to be unacceptable for mine. No longer would I use one set of rules for my beliefs and a different set for the belief of the other. Goal posts did not get to change location depending on whose side was being defended.
I encourage everyone to use the same measure for your faith that you do for others. If you are giving your faith a pass, give that same pass to other faiths. If you have a criticism of another faith, use that same scale for your own.
Rather than engaging my thoughts on the article, she replied, "You are an apostate so I expect that from you."
This exchange was a reminder of why I rarely engage these kinds of exchanges anymore. Outside the evangelical sphere I am a father, teacher, friend, husband, actor, singer, writer, etc. Inside the evangelical sphere there is no need to look any further than apostate.
Her shared article served its purpose. It did nothing to change the mind of this unbeliever, but it soothed her believing mind and halted any possible questions right there.
Posted by Andrew at 10:09 AM
Saturday, October 01, 2016
I have become spoiled by podcasts. I am used to listening to hour long conversations, rather than 8 minute segments.
Yesterday, I accidently killed my podcast list within the app and have been slowly rebuilding it over the past 24 hours. Here are my primaries that were added back immediately.
- Skeptics Guide to the Universe - This one is fairly new for me, but has become a favorite. Great science and critical thinking information and discussion - and accessible to a layman like me.
- Nerdist - A deep catalog of conversations with various artists, musicians, actors, etc. My music and movie choices have been expanded due to this show. Did you know Iggy Pop is fascinating to listen to and seems to be a really great guy? My world expanded.
- Real Time - I don't have HBO, but they put the whole show up on Podcast each week. I think Bill has some of the best panels out there.
- Fatman on Batman - I love Kevin Smith. He is a great guy and his enthusiasm for life, comics, and movies is contagious. He also is crazy profane, so it's not for everyone.
- Beyond The Pale - My brother and sister-in-law do a podcast in Hong Kong. It focuses on the more progressive end of Christianity, but also includes plenty of movies, politics, and adult beverages. I have been on their show a number of times and we are talking about doing it again soon when a topic presents itself. Got any ideas?
While I am rebuilding my podcast database, what are your suggestions for must-listens?
Posted by Andrew at 8:27 AM
Friday, September 23, 2016
While there, my Hong Kong based brother and sister-in-law brought out their podcasting equipment and we sat down with some adult beverages to record an episode. This was the second time they have had me on their show, Beyond The Pale. Like last time, our conversation was long enough to justify it being split into a few episodes.
As always, we had a great conversation. However, this time had the added benefit of my wife chiming in about half way through. Mary Lee and I have similar, and very different, tales to tell about our journeys out of the evangelical faith we were brought up in. I am glad we were able to include some of her story in our conversation.
You can listen online here:
|Episode 021: Time For Christians To Grow Up with Andrew Hackman|
and our previous conversation last winter...
|Episode 004: My Brother's Journey to Atheism (Pt 1)|
|Episode 005: My Brother's Journey To Atheism (Pt2)|
If you are an Apple user, you can find Beyond the Pale at ITunes.
You can also keep up with Beyond the Pale on Facebook
Posted by Andrew at 1:51 PM
Tuesday, July 26, 2016
Trump is the alpha bully student who has the admiration of his fellow trouble makers. When they insult minorities, women, and the disabled, they get in trouble. But somehow, when he does it, he gets away with it. This earns him a backwards form of respect from the ne'er-do-well.
Trump is the high school jock at the end of Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure... mumbling through an ill prepared history essay. Having nothing of substance to offer, he throws up his hands at the end in a victory salute and shouts, "San Dimas High School football RULES!" This brings the student body to their feet in applause, while the teachers roll their eyes.
Trump is no more qualified than Biff Tannen for the highest office in our land.
Posted by Andrew at 4:01 PM
Sunday, July 24, 2016
1. has team support. For many republicans, it simply does not matter how unprepared he is - there is an R next to his name, end of story.
2. has "frat" boy support. Certain personalities love alpha male bluster. His tendency to upgrade his trophy wife every decade or so and bling his name everywhere is seen as a sign of strength.
3. has the racist/bigot crowd. From the blatant David Duke to the person who starts every bigot rant with "I'm not a racist, but..." These folks get all warm and fuzzy every time Trump announces, "I am NOT politically correct!"
4. has the xenophobes. America is a country of immigrants where many fear the latest batch of immigrants.
5. has the bumpkin vote. Trump will get the vote of every moron who resents people who have a high vocabulary. The more ignorance he shows, the more they like him - he speaks their language.
Any of these groups, on their own, do not have a lot of voting power. But for the first time, we have a candidate who can appeal to all of those subgroups. Their combined awfulness may just get him in the White House.
Posted by Andrew at 1:01 PM